Devotion

The Triangle of Connection

Susanne Nikles

The triune loving Godhead decreed “Let us make man in our own image”. (Genesis 1;26) As the human race we were born out of the God who lives in constant love, relationship and attachment.  The triangle draws us back to where we belong – to that loving relationship with God, ourselves and others. It reminds us of the purpose that we can be instrumental in others connecting or reconnecting to God.

 But what does it mean to connect with God, ourselves and others?

An essential element is to let ourselves be wholly and fully loved by God. For me this has meant getting a growing picture of His endless grace-filled desire to be in relationship with me, no matter how I am. Ephesians 3: 18 & 19 describes the incredible dimensions of God’s love.  When I was with a client in trialogue, she had a picture of God with His arms wide open, saying “I’m always here for you, you just have to turn to me”. That picture often reminds me of His constant invitation. And yet how often during a day in our stress or distress, do we turn more away from Him, rather than to Him?  I have to admit that I often allow the uninvited guests of disappointment, frustrations, small griefs and losses, to initially push me away from, rather than towards those open welcoming arms. 

My capacity to hear God’s whispers in the jostle and hustle of my daily life seems to grow when I am able to take longer times of resting in and delighting in His presence. I need to take intentional time to still the busyness of my mind, and my inner anxieties, and then I can feel that deep desire expressed by the psalmist (Psalm 27:4 ) to  ‘gaze upon the beauty of the Lord’. I can hear his voice saying to me “Seek my face, and my heart says to You Your face Lord, will I seek”. (v 8). He knows everything about me, and everything I am going through as expressed in Hebrews. “It was essential that He be made like His brethren in every respect, in order that He might become a merciful High Priest”. (Hebrews 3 : 17). Because He Himself has suffered and been tempted, we can boldly come before the Throne of Grace to find help with every  need (Hebrews 4: 15 & 16).

To know that He truly cares about the state of my heart, my soul and even my body, gives me encouragement and permission to connect with myself.  Encouragement to breathe deeply and notice how I am really doing. And to accept, rather then judge, or blame myself – or deny what I don’t want to see! What a precious gift to know that whatever state I am in, I can bring myself  back into those open welcoming arms of love.

With others: The triangle can represent the relationships within the trinity of attachment, love and connection, and this can be a guide for us to have life giving supportive relationships where we are truly known, with at least a few others. The value of having a few close reciprocal relationships has been scientifically shown to improve the length and quality of our lives. Jesus himself had special relationships with Peter, James and John, and invited them into the deeper places of His life, in the transfiguration on the Mount, and into the garden of Gethsemane.

It is from that life giving space of grace that we can then extend welcome and delight to those we encounter. To be truly present with another, even for a few minutes, can switch on the relational circuits in our brains. The triangle invites us to “Love one another as I have loved you”. (John  13: 34 – 35). My mother’s favourite verse was “We love because He first loved us”. (1 John 4:19). In her humble simple way, she was a living example of this in my life.  Being truly loved by God and others allows us to pass that on to others.

And then we may have that privilege of being part of another’s journey towards, or back towards their Loving Heavenly Father. The third side of the triangle reminds us of the great commission “Go into all the world and make disciples”. My daily prayer is that today I may notice and take those opportunities to extend grace and bless others, that they may taste something of the goodness of God through me.

Reflect:

What spoke to your heart today as you read this?

How might you deepen that side of the triangle between you and God? Do you regularly take time to connect with yourself and bring all of you before our loving God?

How might you build life giving relationships in your own life?  How might God be inviting you to give this to others?

Seeking to be an A+ student

Steffi Gerber

As the father has loved me, so I have loved you. Now remain in my love. John 15:9

In a dream at night I saw myself in the final exam to become a pastor. The task of the exam was to preach exactly what my heart is passionate about. I had a few minutes left to think before it was my turn. I had no idea what my passion was. Should I preach about God the father? Jesus my friend? About Mission? I started to panic. I don’t know what is truly important to me – something that is worth living and dying for. And then it was time to walk to the pulpit. Standing on the pulpit and looking into the face of the listener I knew exactly what my heart is burning for: “………………”

I remember waking up with racing heartbeat but also with this deep peace and joy in my heart! I knew what is worth for me to live and die for! I know what my message is! I know, I will not fail this exam.

When I search my heart, my thoughts, my doings – what is worth keeping? What needs to be adjusted and done or thought differently next time? God is helping us finetune our heart’s desire. And he gave us already a guideline to evaluate myself safely attached:

Faith:

Simon Peter answered him, “Lord, to whom shall we go? You have the words of eternal life. ⁶⁹ We have come to believe and to know that you are the Holy One of God”. John 6:68+69

I believe in God the father. I believe in Jesus. To Him is given all power. I believe that I am His child and for this I am called to live with Him.

This solid faith is the foundation of our life. In a picture language using a boat, its course and its captain – faith could be the course of the boat.

Hope:

Be on guard; stand firm in the faith: be courageous; be strong. 1 Cor 16:13

Hope builds on this foundation of faith and is like the boat in our picture. It follows the course through the storms and calm water.  Without the course the boat is lost. But the boat trusts the course and because of the course the boat can be brave and courageous.

Love:

And hope does not disappoint us, because God has poured out his love into our hears by the Holy Spirit, whom he has given us. Rom 5:5

The course of the boat is correct, the boat takes courage and does what faith is telling but it would not go well for long if there would not be this eye-contact to the captain full of love. Sometimes the boat has carried hope bravely through a storm and looks with excitement into the eyes of a loving God. Sometimes hope went overboard and we look downcast into His eyes – still loving.

How did I do today? Which action, statement, thought, decision was build on faith, carried out by hope and securely attached in his love? Where did I lose my anchor (hope)? Where did I betray my Lord (faith)? Have I lost connection with the captain (love)?

God in his character is love. And when we find in our actions shortcomings, we can practice our faith and hope and turn to the LOVE OF OUR FATHER GOD.

To me that makes someone an A+ student.

What is your heart burning for?

And now these three remain: Faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love. 1 Cor 13:13

Engage Help

John Wadsworth

The story of Moses is a profound illustration of servant leadership, humility, and the necessity of community support in fulfilling one’s calling. When Moses was called by God to lead the Israelites out of Egypt, he felt inadequate and voiced his concerns. In response, God provided Aaron as a companion and spokesperson (Exodus 4:10-16). This act of divine provision sets a precedent for the importance of seeking and accepting help from others.

As Moses continued his journey, he frequently relied on the support of others. During the battle against the Amalekites, when Moses raised his staff to ensure Israel’s victory, Aaron and Hur supported his arms when he grew tired (Exodus 17:8-13). This symbolic act demonstrates the power of communal support in achieving success.

Additionally, Moses’ father-in-law, Jethro, observed Moses’ overwhelming burden of leadership and advised him to delegate responsibilities to capable men, thereby appointing seventy elders to share the load (Exodus 18:13-26). This wise counsel prevented burnout and ensured more effective governance.

When constructing the tabernacle, God appointed skilled artisans like Bezalel and Oholiab to execute the intricate work (Exodus 31:1-11). This further emphasizes the necessity of specialized skills and the importance of recognizing and utilizing the gifts of others to fulfil a larger purpose.

The “Engage Help” step in CURE reflects this biblical model. Just as Moses needed a support system to fulfil his divine mission, we too must recognize the importance of seeking help from various sources, including friends, family, and professionals. However, many of us struggle with asking for help due to pride, embarrassment, or uncertainty.

It’s essential to acknowledge our limitations and understand that seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness. When we feel overwhelmed, inadequate, or tired, we must remember the examples set by Moses and his community. Asking for help is not only practical but also spiritually wise.

Just like Moses, we must first seek God. At the top of the Pyramid on the “Engage Help” step is God, and through Christ, we have access to the Holy Spirit, the ultimate helper. As John 16:7 (AMPC) states: “But I tell you the truth, it is to your advantage that I go away; for if I do not go away, the Helper (Comforter, Advocate, Intercessor—Counsellor, Strengthener, Standby) will not come to you; but if I go, I will send Him (the Holy Spirit) to you [to be in close fellowship with you].”

By seeking God’s wisdom, discernment, and strength, we can navigate our challenges more effectively. Engaging help from God and others is crucial in our journey of transformation and in serving those around us.

As we support others, let us be mindful of our own needs and the resources available to us. By asking, “Can you please help me?” we open ourselves to a wealth of support that can empower us to fulfil our callings and assist others more effectively. Embracing this step fosters a community through servant leadership leading to transformation, reflecting the collaborative spirit demonstrated by Moses and his companions.

Responding to God

Gill Vriend

I appreciate the shapes that sit on the respond step of the Christian Wholeness Framework: the circles, the cross, the combined cross and square, the triangle. They illustrate the diversity of ways by which our Creator, His Son and the Holy Spirit reach down into our world and touch us where we are. Demonstrating Immanuel.

Looking at the shapes, I imagined them jumping off the page, dynamic and multi dimensional, just as He is multi dimensional and His world is without end. The ways He responds to humankind, and we to Him, are numerous. Looking at the inner circles of the mind and the heart, I wondered what they would look like when fully inhabited by the Spirit of God. What would it be like to have the ‘mind of Christ’, always thinking His thoughts from a Kingdom perspective? We are instructed to ‘take every thought captive’ and “demolish strongholds which set themselves up against the knowledge of God’ (2 Corinthians 10:5), yet in itself this is only a precurser to receiving and living out of a Kingdom mindset.

I then thought how it would look if this also applied to our mood, that we feel His mood and emotions about situations we are in.  In reading John 11:1-44, the raising of Lazarus from the dead, I am struck by two things. First, it is clear in the early verses that Jesus knew ahead of time what He, in obedience to what His Father had told Him, would raise Lazarus from death to life. He appears almost impatient with his disciples for not understanding this! Why then, I wondered, was he so overcome by emotion on approaching the tomb that He wept? What was He responding to? Was it, perhaps, grief at identifying with the pain of separation which death means for human beings, something which was never part of God’s original design? And why, in verse 38, was he ‘deeply moved’, ‘deeply troubled’, or in one translation ‘angry in His spirit’? I do not know, but postulate that His spirit could have been troubled, stirred, angry over satan’s seeming ‘victory’ that death was now firmly established in the God’s world, the very opposite of the life that ran through Jesus’ veins.

Yesterday I spent part of the day running errands, preparing a wodge of documents for a visit to Thai immigration. I was consciously ‘practicing the presence of Jesus’, imagining Him being with me as I collected documents from here and there in the city. We were chatting and joking, passing the time like two old friends in a relaxed unhurried way. When I got home I realized I had left my cell phone somewhere, probably in the bank in a big shopping mall. Sharp intake of breath. Oh no! What if…? ‘Stay with me. Breathe’, His whisper came. Back to the shopping mall, Jesus and me. I had an inner calm, because I sensed from Jesus it would be OK, and ,to be fair, also because my phone was old (and  undesirable) and people in North Thailand are usually very honest. And sure enough, all was well. Afterwards I sensed Him laughing with me, not at me, at the relief of retrieving my phone. No condemnation, no reprimand. That was His response, and it silenced my inner critic.

With situations that are more serious and more threatening, I find it harder to ground myself in Christ centred responses as a default setting. Fear is a powerful force to be reckoned with, the polar opposite of love, with both human and spiritual dimensions. ( 2 Tim 1:7) At times like this I often ‘engage other help’, and have a trusted person to pray with me to break the oppression of fear, and be freed to receive both His peace and His thoughts, the ‘mind of Christ’, in order to know to pray and to act from a God centred perspective once more. Recently I have discovered that taking communion, the physical act of symbolically taking His body and blood into my body, and all that it represents, to be extremely powerful in evicting fear and negativity and bringing peace and love.

So, me in Him, and Him in me. These are some of the ways I have found myself responding to God recently. How about you?

To Understand – To Know

Claire Wadsworth

Thus says the Lord:
“Stand by the roads, and look,
and ask for the ancient paths,
where the good way is; and walk in it,
and find rest for your souls ….

Jeremiah 6:16

Recently, I embarked on a transformative journey of silence at a Christian monastery—a wholly novel experience that has indelibly marked my soul. The serenity cultivated within those sacred walls has given me a profound tranquillity, diminishing the grip of stress and permeating my life with a newfound calmness. Even amidst the hustle and bustle of daily affairs, my mind now finds solace, echoing the timeless injunction of Psalm 46:10 to “Be still and know that I am God.” I feel as though I am more alert to details in the day, I am more mindful of nature and colours around me my senses are heightened. I gaze at the beautiful tropical fish, the majestic sea turtle, the tiniest ants, spectacular cumulus clouds and I consider my God who created all these for His pleasure.

Who is this God that He should be mindful of me? The scriptures say that God is Spirit (Spirit circle), love (Love sector) truth (Truth sector) and by Him all things were created, visible and invisible, whether thrones or powers or rulers or authorities (Control sector). It is no wonder that when we invite Him into our Spirit circle and ask Him to take residence (Centre sector) that it affects every sector of our being, His omnipotent presence in every facet of existence. Through moments of profound surrender, such as the week of silent communion, He draws near, establishing Himself as the focal point of our being. In this sacred union, I discovered a deeper understanding of both God and self, relinquishing control of my thoughts, behaviour, and mood to His divine guidance.

The words of Jeremiah 6:16 have resonated deeply within me. Even after more than forty years journeying alongside God, I continue to glean wisdom from its timeless counsel. I daily inch closer towards embracing the age-old pathways, where the rhythm of existence finds its resonance in divine centrality.  In this pursuit, I discover a profound serenity enveloping my soul, a testament to the restorative power of a life firmly anchored in God. In this text the ancient paths refer to faith, devotion, and honour to the one true God of Israel. These pathways, rooted in the gospel of Christ, offer a sanctuary of rest amidst life’s chaos. Matthew 11:28-30 extends a divine invitation to participate in this transformational journey, a journey characterized by an earnest pursuit of spiritual nourishment. For me this state of rest means soaking in Scripture more, listening to Christian messages, podcasts, worship music. In moments of extended travel, instead of subjecting myself to the whims of radio programming, I now manage a personalized worship playlist. This intentional choice enables me to arrive at my destination in a greater state of peace. I try to go somewhere green or blue most days to watch and be mindful of creation and the Creator. I acknowledge that this is only one side of the triangle, me, and God. Yet, this journey is not solitary; it extends an invitation for communal engagement. As I walk along the ancient paths, I find myself more attuned to the needs of others, extending an invitation for them to participate in this journey of transformation. Scripture directs us in greater detail and guidance to God’s workings. It shows us that these ancient paths are still relevant today and are accessible and relevant to all. They are a light to our path (Psalm 119:105).

• I am wondering when was the last time you spent an hour, a day, a week in silence, no distractions, just listening to your Lord?
• What does Jeremiah 6:16 speak to you?
• What does it mean for you to walk in the good way?
• How do you seek to deepen your understanding and intimacy with God?  

Connection – A Pathway to our Heart

Leone Drew

May you have the power, together with all the saints, to grasp how wide and long, and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge ….

Ephesians 3:18

Some truly amazing things happen in nature.  When a grain of pollen lands on the stigma of a flower, it does not instantly fertilize it and cause the fruit to grow.  A pathway is first required to deliver the pollen into the heart of the flower.  The pollen must stimulate the growth of a pollen tube before it is able to access the hidden, deeper parts of the flower.    

Something similar and equally wondrous happens in the life of an infant.  As parents delight in and love their child, establishing an environment of consistent tender care and safety, a pathway is created into the heart of the child.  At the deepest level the child receives their loving care and is nurtured and established by it.  Who they are and a sure knowledge of their intrinsic value develops and grows.  Sadly, if a child does not receive gentle care and love, the formation of that pathway to their heart can be disrupted and the process of developing healthy identity and functioning fails to be set in motion.  The heart is starved of its own value and truth.  

It is so easy to assume that everyone is capable of receiving love.  The wording of Paul’s verse in Ephesians, indicates that he understood our capacity to experience God’s love can be weak or limited.  Since infancy my heart was isolated and without connection, with devastating consequences. Until I received care from a CWF practitioner who knew how to connect with an isolated, undernourished heart, I was unable to comprehend that I could be loved, and my heart was empty of identity and value.  I needed God’s healing and power to comprehend His love, just as Paul prayed for the Ephesians. It is just so important to love and affirm our children and ask our Father that He might give to us all the capacity to receive and be nurtured by His endless, boundless love. 

How is your pollen tube?

Praying Hands

Dr. John Warlow

How do you practice the presence of God in everyday life, in a proactive way, God Through You (GTY)? I can find myself so often living reactively to whatever is going on around me. I want to keep my thoughts in my mind circle on Christ, and on wholistic God centred transformation. I try to keep mentally engaged in prayer, however it can be a challenge when either my mind is too tired or it is drifting, as I’m doing the washing up.  I’m grateful for prayerful meditation during the day, but currently, I am trying to move towards a posture of ongoing prayer as well. I want to engage my body as well as my mind.

This is what I have found to be helpful. This is a simple exercise to help us physically meditate on God. You have 5 fingers on each hand. Touch/wiggle your thumb to remind you of the first of the 5 “P’s” of God, the Person of God. Do the same for each finger for the remaining four “P’s” of God: His Presence, Placement of you, Purposes for you and Provisions for you. You can also focus especially on one of the five “P’s” for each of the five days of the week: the Person of God on Monday, His Presence on Tuesday and so on. If you want to go further, there are actually thirty-five aspects of God under these five “P’s” to physically meditate on! Have a look at the CURE for Life Book 1, “The Shape of the Cross” (page 145), and again in the CURE for Life Book 3, “The Shape of the Cross Illustrates Scripture” (page 32). May you grow in the wholistic practice of the presence of God, even when you are busy or tired, and want to draw near to your Heavenly Father.

Group of Women with Noble Character

Four Chinese Sisters

Many years ago, when LW was teaching in China, students meet regularly in Transformational (T) groups. These comprised 6 people, and a facilitator, over the 2 years of the course. SAP groups hadn’t yet been developed back then. After the course finished this is what a group of graduates decided to do:

“After learning about the CWF, we realized the importance of meeting together, so four sisters of us decided to set up a prayer group. We called it the Group of Women with Noble Character (GWNC). On the first meeting, we discussed the function of the group and identified the expectations of each person from the group. We also emphasized the need to meet in safety, and meanwhile we reminded ourselves that there are phases and seasons we will go through on the journey together.
We get together 2-3 hours each week, first worshiping and then sharing ups and downs during the week, and spending the rest of our time praying together for our spiritual maturity, for our families and work. When an emergency happens to a sister, we will put aside our work at hand to go together immediately to the sister’s home. One time Sister Gao called and told us in tears that she felt so lonely and scared because her doctor just told her something was seriously wrong with her brain. We then held her together and prayed for her situation asking for HIS healing. It turned out her brain was fine! Sister Gao was so grateful to the group for being with her at “the darkest hour”.
GWNC is a safe place with love and genuine relationship, and in the group we can just be ourselves. It is both attractive and precious!
Dear friends, have you set up your own prayer and sharing groups yet? How could yours look?”

Twelve Angles on Discerning Gods Will for Your Life

1. Submission and Surrender 

At the end of the day, it comes down less to ‘what is the correct choice or path to take’ but more ‘Am I fully surrendered to you Jesus?’ He who tries to save his life will lose it but he who loses it for the sake of the gospel will save it. We need to be surrendered if we want to hear His will. If we are half surrendered, half still me-focused, we want the power still. Full surrender means fully open to His ways.  Because on the new road, He knows we will need to trust Him more, and walk hand in hand with Him more closely still, for it all to work. How surrendered are you?

2. What is your heart’s desire? (Ps 37: 3-7)

He will have planted a desire in your heart which is like the instinctive capacity migrating birds have to find home. He has given you the vision, the calling, for your life, and will see it through with you. Don’t be afraid to take time to clearly hear your heart’s purest desire, and with this sense where it leads you. What is Your hearts highest calling?

3. Scripture: General and Rhema 

The way ahead will always be congruent with the general will of God as declared in scripture. Maybe care for the poor; feed my sheep; share the good news and so on. Then there will often be Rheema words from scripture which confirm a particular direction. Seek Him in His Word, and He will show you.

4. Opportunity for Kingdom Growth

Does the opportunity in front of you make Kingdom sense? Does it give God more glory? Does it facilitate the growth and expansion of His Kingdom in greater ways than currently? Or is it something that would be of benefit more for you? How can you usher the Kingdom in?

5. Wise Counsel 

Seek wisdom from those who know you well. Don’t make big decisions alone but put them in front of those who will seek His will with you, those who are for you and for Him. Spend a session with such people in prayer, just waiting on God. This has been immensely helpful for my family at several significant times, as those we sat with offered their impressions which added up beautifully to a full picture. Seek counsel and prayer.

6. Fasting 

The spiritual disciplines are all important in seeking His face. Solitude, silence, submission and so on. And yet there is nothing that seems to grant us greater access to His Spirit than the discipline of fasting. There are many ways of doing this – length of time, types of abstinence, solo or with others, and so on. Ask Him what He would have from you.  

7. Holy Spirit Leading 

Ask for the leading of the Holy Spirit. For these major decisions, intently seek His clear voice and guidance. I have experienced this ever so clearly at major decision points in life, including dreams, hearing His audible voice, confirmation by 7 people when I just asked for 3, and so on. He loves you, He is for you, He is on your side. He will not give you a snake when you ask for a fish. Ask Him to lead you.

8. Faith vs Obedience 

This is an interesting one worth mentioning and holding in balance. At some stages of our spiritual walk He seems to want to test our obedience. At others He seems more interested in our faith. At one of the biggest decisions of my life it was the latter…not so much a sense of I should obey His call but more He was inviting me to step out in faith. Of course it involved the release of His gift of faith to me, but it interested me that it wasn’t just a step of pure obedience that was called for. And in His wisdom He built my faith up to live confidently in this new paradigm. What is He calling you to – a step of faith or a step of obedience? 

9. Is there a God Gap?

God Gap meaning the way ahead is only possible if God is with me. If I can do it alone then really there is not much Kingdom challenge here. If the new path looks in a way like sitting on a sailing boat at sea, only able to move if or when the wind arises; if it involves rock climbing antigravity style under an overhang, then these are times I must have the wind of His Spirit, or be held up by His hands against gravity, to move at all. It is living in this God Gap where, in my view, Kingdom life is most challenging, enjoyable, and eternally fruitful. What is your God Gap here?

10. Building on Life Experience 

Look back over your life. What were your most significant life events, your sense of God and His journey so far with you, maybe key life scriptures. What is your hearts desire? Journal these. As you look back, what step or steps does it seem to make the most sense that you would take now in the journey, as prepared or inadequate that you feel. When I did move to Asia, so often afterwards I would be in awe at how He had already built experiences and learning into my life so I could do well what was required of me.

David, at 15, had life experience in defending sheep. Goliath was simply one more step along that path. There was a God Gap, where he needed faith, and obedience, (and loads of courage I imagine) which subsequently led to an amazing array of Kingdom events for the rest of his life. 

What are some of the main areas across your life, likely they are preparation for what He is inviting you to walk forwards in to? What was that investment for, if not for this next step?

11. Timing 

Is it the right thing but not yet the timing? I have also experienced this. The major call was right, but suspended for several years until it was truly the right time to take the new path. This allowed those around me to adjust to the idea so when it was the right time they were on board. It also allowed me to be located in one place where I was needed for that season, then released for the new.  Be patient, wait on Him, don’t move until it is the right time. For me  I never looked back. How about you?

12. Peace that Passes Understanding 

When we have taken the decision and begin the action steps that affirm to ourselves and others that we are taking a new way, there may be opposition, criticism, or objection. But like Nehemiah, we need to continue in faith. More than likely, even though there may be some doubts, deeper than that, we will know His peace that passes all understanding and keeps our hearts and minds safe in Christ Jesus.

Likely you have thoughts and experiences which have helped you too. Do draw on your past walk with Jesus to inform your present and future!

My prayer for you is that you find:

His good and perfect will for you at every fork in the road, 
His loving and gracious presence in your heart at every step, 
His encouragement when times are tough, and 
His affirmation of a life well lived when you move to glory.

Don’t settle for less.

David Nikles
January 2024